Enjoy the Process

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Yesterday I ate lunch with Cristina.  She is a friend from high school who recently moved to Dallas, Texas.  We haven’t seen each other as often as we would like but she is one of my favorite people in the world.  So she asked me a few of those normal questions you ask people you haven’t seen in a while:  “How are you?”  “How is married life?”  “What’s new in your life?”  I am so used to getting those questions from random people from my past that I run into at Wal-Mart or one of the downtown arts festivals, I always just smile and say, “Not much,” just because I don’t want to share my life with someone I don’t really know anymore.  Maybe I’m antisocial or whatever but I feel like those conversations are not worth my time.  When Cristina asked me, however, I knew she really wanted to know.  So I answered that I was sleepy but otherwise good.  I told her that married life is wonderful and fun and I love it and as I began to continue I thought to myself, when I was single I didn’t like hearing about how other people were in wonderful relationships, so I stopped and smiled again.

I thought about what was new in my life for a minute and I said, “Oh well I started a blog, so that is new.”  Then she asked me really normal follow up questions from people who don’t stay on the internet 24/7 such as:  “What is a blog?”  “What is it for?”  Defining a blog was easy but explaining its purpose was a little tricky.   As I hesitated while thinking of what to say to her, she said “Well what do you write about?”

Maybe my niche is about the process.  I’m not good at cooking but I’m learning and I enjoy it for the most part.  I’m not good at gardening but I love plants and flowers.  I fail sometimes, but at least I try to be creative and try new things.  The quarter life crisis is real and I am still trying to figure out some things,  but I know for sure that everyone either has or will go through some type of transitional phase of life plagued by self doubt and unreal expectations. Sure, some people are really talented, beautiful, creative people who get a job right after college and make $100,000 a year but some people have a very different reality.  Some people maybe made straight A’s their entire life (including college) but had no idea that their Communication degree wouldn’t land them a stellar job, and their joy comes from married life or learning to cook at 28 or painting cheap furniture to make it seem nice, or thrift store shopping or finding out why their toilet gurgles, or anything else that makes their life seem more fun.

Note to self:  Enjoy the process.

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